What I learned from doing what others want and why you shouldn’t do it
Ever since I was young I have always heard that I was a very smart kid and that everyone expected great things from me. I come from a family of lawyers and… of course… they wanted me to be too. My early teenage years were difficult and I strayed a bit from school and those expectations. At sixteen, I was a popular guy in my school. It was a great transition and I was working for all parties, being part of the student association. As usual with all this attention, I didn’t really care about grades or being home to study.
Can you all see where this is going?
My family – traditionally all graduates and with the thought that this is the only way to be successful in life – started to criticize me and tell me that I was not going to be anything without education but that I only want to earn money. ‘silver. It was my main goal, but I listened to my family and went to college. I tried a sports degree, I only spent 6 months there and although I did just about everything, I didn’t go to 9am class… I needed to sleep. Of course, after a while, after partying, I wasn’t happy and left. I came back to my city and spent the rest of the year doing nothing. To play on the computer. Full nerd mode. Stay awake until 5 a.m. and wake up at 5 p.m.
After that terrible year, once again the pressure came to try another degree. I went to college in my hometown and tried web development. I spent a year and a half there and once again I left. I started working part time in a rental store to make money while I was there and when I was making money I never looked back and started not to go to class.
New chapter in my life – Work!
I knew I didn’t have a degree so I had to work 10 times harder than a lot of others to get the same opportunities and that was never a problem for me but this rental store was starting to be small for me and my ego. I refused to renew the contract and spent 3 months looking for something when something fell from the sky. A friend of mine invited me to take part in a project in the Netherlands to work in one of the best and biggest companies in the country.
So I had the chance to prove to my family that I could be something great without formal education and be successful in life.
I was living the life. Lived in a hotel, always ate in restaurants. The company paid for everything. The dream is not it? Well sort of …
I went there to become an IT consultant. Work with applications that monitor all kinds of devices connected to the Internet. The app was called Spectrum. I spent 3 months with my friend and then he was fired. So I was there… alone in the Netherlands among the wolves without knowing anything. I was screwed, I thought at least. I worked hard for 5 months and became the master of the spectrum, I won awards with my team there and they started giving me projects just for me. I had their confidence and everything but I forgot something… My social life sucked.
It started to haunt me. I started to be so closed and started drinking on my own in the hotel room. After almost a year there, I have hit rock bottom. My head was still exploding. I couldn’t even sleep. I spoke with the company psychologist and she told me that I was probably burnt out.
I was 21 at the time and already had a burnout.
Now I’m back home and close to family and friends and have a stable job with good people that has potential. I have time to implement my ideas and create my parallel scrambles. That’s what I focused on but that’s a story for another time.
Hope you all liked it because this was my first internet content itself. For me, opening like that has been quite difficult but I think people have to do what they love and what they think they have to do and that is true happiness.
Previously published at way
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