Internet backs up Redditor whose brother accused them of “forcing his girlfriend to have an abortion”
A Redditor has been accused of “forcing” their brother and brother’s girlfriend to have an abortion after explaining that they could not live with the couple if they had their baby.
In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A ** hole” forum, Nlwile3f explained that they had allowed their twin brother, “Zack” and his girlfriend, “Kat,” to move in with them.
“I just told them to participate when they can and as long as I don’t pay for their food or something, it’s cold right now,” the Redditor wrote.
The living situation was good and Nlwile3f noted that Zack and Kat were planning to move when Zack graduated, which was estimated to be around 2023.
“Now that wasn’t much of a problem for me as they really don’t have anywhere to go and I absolutely don’t want to come back [our] parents, “the Redditor wrote.” The point is that [sic] about a week ago, they told me they were pregnant. “
Nlwile3f went on to say that while they were excited for Zack and Kat, having a baby living in the same space would be difficult because the Redditor suffers from insomnia.
“So a crying baby would literally make my life hell on Earth,” they wrote.
According to the Mayo Clinic, insomnia is a sleep disorder. Some of the symptoms described include difficulty falling asleep at night, lack of rest after a night’s sleep, and daytime fatigue or drowsiness.
While many adults can experience short-term insomnia, some people’s sleeplessness can last for months or longer.
Nlwile3f spoke with Zack and Kat to get a feel for what the couple’s plans will be after learning they are expecting it.
“When I asked them what they were planning to do, they said they were going to keep him because Kat doesn’t believe in abortion and they feel like they would make good parents. [they definitely would, they’re great people]”the Redditor wrote in the post.
The conversation ended that evening, but Nlwile3f asked what the couple were planning to do regarding their living conditions when the baby was born the next morning and said they were aware of their condition sleep. Zack and Kat said they have nowhere to go and plan to continue living with the Redditor.
“I told them this would not happen for the reasons stated earlier,” the post read. “They were both very upset and accused me of ‘forcing them to abort their baby.’
The Redditor suggested they might be wrong for making Zack and Kat choose between housing and their child, but felt they were reasonable.
Commentators stepped in to say that while they were sympathetic to the couple, Nlwile3f was not out of place in telling them that they couldn’t live with them with a baby.
“You’ve clearly set your limits and if that doesn’t match their beliefs, they can find another way to deal with it,” said one of the leading comments with over 14,000 votes. “You did not subscribe to [live] with their child. “
One commentator slammed Zack and Kat for expecting the Redditor to agree to a major lifestyle change after already allowing the couple to stay with them.
“You don’t make them do anything,” wrote another Redditor. “They can have their baby, they just can’t do it living with you. If their family planning is based on being able to live with you rent-free for the foreseeable future, then they can’t afford to. have a baby. “
Others echoed the sentiment and even wrote that the couple aren’t doing enough to plan for their future if they have a baby.
“They’re adults, they can find something, it’s not like you said ‘you have to move out tomorrow’,” one comment read. “They have several months to find new housing. Going straight to abortion is pretty extreme on their part.”